My husband, Nirmala, has written a wonderful book called Nothing Personal. I love that title, so I?d like to talk a little bit more about what it means. We get into trouble when we take things personally. What I mean by that, besides the usual meaning, is that we make ourselves unhappy when we personalize our experience?when we tell a story about our experience rather than just have the experience. Telling stories wouldn?t be much of a problem if they were always positive, but usually our stories are complaints about life that generate unpleasant feelings. Those complaints and feelings color life and spoil the potential happiness and grace in each moment.
For example, you notice your spouse?s clothes on the floor and say to yourself: ?They were so expensive; I can?t believe he/she threw them on the floor.? That story can make you angry, and you might express this anger to your spouse or do something else in response to feeling angry (e.g., eat cake, go on a shopping spree, complain to a friend). Instead, if you are able to just notice the clothing and notice the story that arises, then anger and any other responses that the anger might spark won?t happen. And then just pick up the clothes or don?t pick up the clothes. End of story. The anger is unnecessary and so are the other responses. They waste our energy and get us nothing but unhappiness. What if you just noticed what you notice without telling a story about it and then just responded to it? Voila! No suffering!
Source: http://www.radicalhappiness.com/all-blog-articles/306-nothing-personal
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