Source: http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AllGreatQuotes/~3/uB4SAoxE9pg/sex_quotes.shtml
key to happiness pursuit of happiness quotes happy things being happy quotes quotes about happiness
Thursday, February 27, 2014
Sexy Quotes
"As a young man I used to have four supple members and one stiff one. Now I have four stiff and one supple." - Henri, duc d'Aumale 
Valentine Quotes
"Come live with me, and be my love, And we will some new pleasures prove Of golden sands, and crystal brooks, With silken lines, and silver hooks." -- John Donne 
Source: http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AllGreatQuotes/~3/Eik0CHf6xm4/valentine_quotes.shtml
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
Self Pity Stabs Happiness
Stabs of self pity strike suddenly from time to time. All we see are the wrongs, the inequities and the dreadful damage our difficulties have caused us. A overwhelming surge of painful, debilitating self pity begins to set in. Don’t let self pity overwhelm or over power you. Stop Self Pity Before It Grows And […]
Source: http://happinessblog.com/2009/self-pity-stabs-happiness/
quotes about being happy quotes about love and happiness thoughts on happiness what makes people happy being happy
Are you Maxed Out?
I just finished Katrina Alcorn?s gripping memoir, Maxed Out, about her nervous breakdown. Although it is an absorbing, can?t-put-it-down kind of a book, her breakdown?harrowing as it was?struck me as ordinary.
Ordinary in that her experience seems so common. Working parents are stressed. Women in particular are really suffering: They report record-high use of anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medication. By some reputable reports, nearly a quarter of American woman use a prescription medication for depression or anxiety. 1 (Men tend to self-medicate with alcohol and drugs, and report higher rates of addiction and alcohol.2)
Here?s how Katrina tells it:
I was a 37-year-old mother of three and somehow, my kids, my marriage, and my career were all thriving.
Then, one Saturday afternoon in the spring of 2009, while driving to Target to buy diapers, I broke down. Not my car. Me.
I pulled over to the side of the road, my hands shaking, barely able to breathe. I called my husband and sobbed, ?I can?t do this anymore.?
Thus ended my career, and thus began a journey into crippling depression, anxiety, and insomnia; medication, meditation, and therapy. As I learned to heal my body and my mind, I searched for answers to one question: What the hell happened to me?
I first met Katrina at a woman-led tech firm (which was recently bought-up by Facebook). Ironically, I was there as a consultant working on a happiness app for the iPhone. Katrina was successfully leading a team of hipsters doing cutting edge work?and slowly but surely having a full-on nervous breakdown.
She ended up in bed for a year, crushed by burn-out so thorough and unexpected that her friends had to bring her family food and drive her kids to day care while she recovered.
As she recovered, Katrina had a realization that was shocking to her:
Working and raising kids pretty much sucks in America.
FACT: The typical American family worked 11 hours more per week in 2006 than in 1979.
FACT: Only the United States lacks paid maternity-leave laws among the 30 industrialized democracies.
FACT: Fully 90 percent of American mothers and 95 percent of American fathers report work-family conflict. 3
Most of us feel pretty lucky and very grateful to be Americans. Dysfunctional as it may sometimes be, our government remains the world?s oldest and arguably its most stable democracy. The majority of Americans experience material wealth and abundance unknown in many parts of the world. And those of us in California and many other parts of the country are blessed with natural beauty and national parks so stunning that they inspire awe and wonder in all but only the most hardened among us.
But our policies for working families are shameful.
It isn?t that working sucks?if we are lucky, like Katrina Alcorn, we love our work. Most parents want to do meaningful work outside of our homes. It?s just that our workplaces aren?t set up to allow us enough time to take care of ourselves (say, by getting enough sleep) and raise our children and work outside the home.
This Time Bind, artfully described by sociologist Arlie Hochschild in the 1990s in her book of that title, is a problem that we won?t solve by ?leaning in? to our work (as Facebook CEO Sheryl Sandberg advises us to do in her book about the problems that plague women in the workforce today).
Despite the publicity around a recent study that supposedly shows that working less doesn?t make people happier?more on that next week?I believe that we are still grappling with Hochschild?s time bind, all these years and technological advances later.
But what are we to do if we are feeling MAXED OUT? The owner of Alcorn?s company, a mother of three herself, advised her to hire a ?mother?s helper,? to assist with homework and dinnertime. Sandberg has a team of paid folks helping her with household and child-related tasks. But hiring more help isn?t a feasible, or even desirable, solution for most of us. Would working less make us happier?
Next week I?ll look more closely at some new research related to this question.
?????????-
1. Bindley, Katherine. ?Women And Prescription Drugs: One In Four Takes Mental Health Meds.? Huffington Post. 2011.
2. Kessler, Ronald C., et al. ?Prevalence, severity, and comorbidity of 12-month DSM-IV disorders in the National Comorbidity Survey Replication.? Archives of General Psychiatry 62.6 (2005): 617.
3.Joan C. Williams of the Center for Work Life Law and Heather Boushey of the Center for American Progress called ?The Three Faces of Work-family Conflict: The Poor, the Professionals, and the Missing Middle.? Published January 2010. - See more at: http://www.workingmomsbreak.com/just-the-facts/#sthash.4G1K4JM9.dpuf
Become a fan of Raising Happiness on Facebook.
Follow Christine Carter on Twitter
Subscribe to the Happiness Matters Podcast on iTunes.
Sign up for the Raising Happiness CLASS!
Ordinary in that her experience seems so common. Working parents are stressed. Women in particular are really suffering: They report record-high use of anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medication. By some reputable reports, nearly a quarter of American woman use a prescription medication for depression or anxiety. 1 (Men tend to self-medicate with alcohol and drugs, and report higher rates of addiction and alcohol.2)
Here?s how Katrina tells it:
I was a 37-year-old mother of three and somehow, my kids, my marriage, and my career were all thriving.
Then, one Saturday afternoon in the spring of 2009, while driving to Target to buy diapers, I broke down. Not my car. Me.
I pulled over to the side of the road, my hands shaking, barely able to breathe. I called my husband and sobbed, ?I can?t do this anymore.?
Thus ended my career, and thus began a journey into crippling depression, anxiety, and insomnia; medication, meditation, and therapy. As I learned to heal my body and my mind, I searched for answers to one question: What the hell happened to me?
I first met Katrina at a woman-led tech firm (which was recently bought-up by Facebook). Ironically, I was there as a consultant working on a happiness app for the iPhone. Katrina was successfully leading a team of hipsters doing cutting edge work?and slowly but surely having a full-on nervous breakdown.
She ended up in bed for a year, crushed by burn-out so thorough and unexpected that her friends had to bring her family food and drive her kids to day care while she recovered.
As she recovered, Katrina had a realization that was shocking to her:
Working and raising kids pretty much sucks in America.
FACT: The typical American family worked 11 hours more per week in 2006 than in 1979.
FACT: Only the United States lacks paid maternity-leave laws among the 30 industrialized democracies.
FACT: Fully 90 percent of American mothers and 95 percent of American fathers report work-family conflict. 3
Most of us feel pretty lucky and very grateful to be Americans. Dysfunctional as it may sometimes be, our government remains the world?s oldest and arguably its most stable democracy. The majority of Americans experience material wealth and abundance unknown in many parts of the world. And those of us in California and many other parts of the country are blessed with natural beauty and national parks so stunning that they inspire awe and wonder in all but only the most hardened among us.
But our policies for working families are shameful.
It isn?t that working sucks?if we are lucky, like Katrina Alcorn, we love our work. Most parents want to do meaningful work outside of our homes. It?s just that our workplaces aren?t set up to allow us enough time to take care of ourselves (say, by getting enough sleep) and raise our children and work outside the home.
This Time Bind, artfully described by sociologist Arlie Hochschild in the 1990s in her book of that title, is a problem that we won?t solve by ?leaning in? to our work (as Facebook CEO Sheryl Sandberg advises us to do in her book about the problems that plague women in the workforce today).
Despite the publicity around a recent study that supposedly shows that working less doesn?t make people happier?more on that next week?I believe that we are still grappling with Hochschild?s time bind, all these years and technological advances later.
But what are we to do if we are feeling MAXED OUT? The owner of Alcorn?s company, a mother of three herself, advised her to hire a ?mother?s helper,? to assist with homework and dinnertime. Sandberg has a team of paid folks helping her with household and child-related tasks. But hiring more help isn?t a feasible, or even desirable, solution for most of us. Would working less make us happier?
Next week I?ll look more closely at some new research related to this question.
?????????-
1. Bindley, Katherine. ?Women And Prescription Drugs: One In Four Takes Mental Health Meds.? Huffington Post. 2011.
2. Kessler, Ronald C., et al. ?Prevalence, severity, and comorbidity of 12-month DSM-IV disorders in the National Comorbidity Survey Replication.? Archives of General Psychiatry 62.6 (2005): 617.
3.Joan C. Williams of the Center for Work Life Law and Heather Boushey of the Center for American Progress called ?The Three Faces of Work-family Conflict: The Poor, the Professionals, and the Missing Middle.? Published January 2010. - See more at: http://www.workingmomsbreak.com/just-the-facts/#sthash.4G1K4JM9.dpuf
Become a fan of Raising Happiness on Facebook.
Follow Christine Carter on Twitter
Subscribe to the Happiness Matters Podcast on iTunes.
Sign up for the Raising Happiness CLASS!
Source: http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/berkeley/MMpu/~3/IofRtAJYk7Q/are_you_maxed_out
improve mood happy life health and happiness quotes on happiness how to be happy
Oct 31, The Power of Self Hypnosis
Self Hypnosis Get's to the Root Of and Eliminates Self Sabotaging Beliefs, Transforms Habitually Destructive Patterns and Tendencies, Enabling the Fulfillment of Heartfelt Desires to Become the Rule..
Source: http://www.abundance-and-happiness.com/self-hypnosis.html
find happiness the secret of happiness key to happiness pursuit of happiness quotes happy things
The Quiet Secret to Success
When we look at people who are at the top of their field, they all have grit: persistence and passion for their long-term goals. But this doesn?t mean that they burn the midnight oil day in and day out in pursuit of achievement.
Just as elite performers are strategic about what they practice, they are also strategic about how long they practice for. If you think success requires practicing until your fingers bleed or mind spins or muscles give out, for hour upon hour upon hour of endless, relentless, intrinsically boring practice, I have some good news for you: Research suggests that?s not the way to get there.
In our modern, fast-paced, and technology-driven culture, we sometimes forget that we are humans, not computers. Like other animals, we humans are governed by our ultradian and circadian rhythms. Most people are familiar with the concept of our circadian rhythms: In the 24-hour period between when the sun rises and sets, we sleep and wake in predictable cycles. When we travel into different time zones, our circadian rhythms get out of whack, and as a consequence, our lives also can feel similarly discombobulated.
Our brains and bodies also cycle in ?ultradian rhythms? throughout the day and night. An ultradian rhythm is a recurrent period or cycle that repeats throughout the 24-hour circadian day, like our breathing or our heart rate.
Our brain-wave patterns cycle in ultradian rhythms as well, and about every hour and a half to two hours, we experience a significant ?ultradian dip,? when our energy drops and sleep becomes possible. When we work through these dips?relying on caffeine, adrenaline, and stress hormones to keep us alert?instead of letting our bodies and brains rest, we become stressed and jittery, and our performance falters.
In his studies of truly great performers, K. Anders Ericsson, the psychologist and author of several landmark studies on elite performance about whom I wrote last week, found that they practiced and rested a lot more than their good but not elite peers. For example, violinists destined to become professional soloists practiced an average of 3.5 hours per day, typically in three separate sessions of 60-90 minutes each. Good but not great performers, in contrast, typically practiced an average of 1.4 hours per day, with no deliberate rest breaking up their practice session.
So it isn?t just that elite performers work more than others; they rest more, as well. The top violinists mentioned above slept an hour a night more than their less-accomplished classmates. They were also far more likely to take a nap between practice sessions?nearly three hours of napping a week.
Super-high-achievers sleep significantly more than the average American. On average, Americans get only 6.5 hours of sleep per night. (Even though studies show that 95 percent of the population needs between seven and eight hours of sleep a night.) Elite performers tend to get 8.6 hours of sleep a night; elite athletes need even more sleep. One study showed that when Stanford swimmers increased their sleep time to 10 hours a night, they felt happier, more energetic?and their performance in the pool improved dramatically.
High performance requires more sleep because it involves higher rates of learning and sometimes physical growth. When we are awake, adequate sleep allows us to focus our attention on our practice; when we are sleep deprived, our overworked neurons become uncoordinated, and we start having trouble accessing previously learned information.
When we sleep, our brain consolidates what we?ve learned while we were awake, making it a part of our working memory that we can access later. Sleep allows us to remember tomorrow how to do what we?ve practiced today, and it enables us to recall the information and knowledge we?ve just learned.
The amount of sleep that we get?and how disciplined we are about following our body?s natural circadian and ultradian rhythms?affects not just our health but our productivity and performance. But what does sleep have to do with grit?
Grit is the ability to maintain perseverance and passion towards our long-term goals; we cannot persevere in the face of difficulty if we are fatigued physically, mentally, or emotionally. We can?t persist over the decade or so it takes to achieve true mastery if we become sick or exhausted or burned out along the way. And we can?t improve our skills?intellectually, physically, or artistically?if our learning, memory, and reaction times are impaired due to lack of sleep and rest.
So being gritty isn?t just about pushing yourself 24/7 toward your goals, in both good and bad weather. It?s about making progress toward your goals consistently and deliberately, in a way that works with our human biology, allowing for proper refueling and consolidation of knowledge.
This is part two in a series. Part one, ?A New Theory of Elite Performance,? explains how grit trumps genetics. Part three, ?Passion + Adversity = Success,? explores how passion helps us to overcome failure.
Become a fan of Raising Happiness on Facebook.
Follow Christine Carter on Twitter
Subscribe to the Happiness Matters Podcast on iTunes.
Sign up for the Raising Happiness CLASS!
Just as elite performers are strategic about what they practice, they are also strategic about how long they practice for. If you think success requires practicing until your fingers bleed or mind spins or muscles give out, for hour upon hour upon hour of endless, relentless, intrinsically boring practice, I have some good news for you: Research suggests that?s not the way to get there.
In our modern, fast-paced, and technology-driven culture, we sometimes forget that we are humans, not computers. Like other animals, we humans are governed by our ultradian and circadian rhythms. Most people are familiar with the concept of our circadian rhythms: In the 24-hour period between when the sun rises and sets, we sleep and wake in predictable cycles. When we travel into different time zones, our circadian rhythms get out of whack, and as a consequence, our lives also can feel similarly discombobulated.
Our brains and bodies also cycle in ?ultradian rhythms? throughout the day and night. An ultradian rhythm is a recurrent period or cycle that repeats throughout the 24-hour circadian day, like our breathing or our heart rate.
Our brain-wave patterns cycle in ultradian rhythms as well, and about every hour and a half to two hours, we experience a significant ?ultradian dip,? when our energy drops and sleep becomes possible. When we work through these dips?relying on caffeine, adrenaline, and stress hormones to keep us alert?instead of letting our bodies and brains rest, we become stressed and jittery, and our performance falters.
In his studies of truly great performers, K. Anders Ericsson, the psychologist and author of several landmark studies on elite performance about whom I wrote last week, found that they practiced and rested a lot more than their good but not elite peers. For example, violinists destined to become professional soloists practiced an average of 3.5 hours per day, typically in three separate sessions of 60-90 minutes each. Good but not great performers, in contrast, typically practiced an average of 1.4 hours per day, with no deliberate rest breaking up their practice session.
So it isn?t just that elite performers work more than others; they rest more, as well. The top violinists mentioned above slept an hour a night more than their less-accomplished classmates. They were also far more likely to take a nap between practice sessions?nearly three hours of napping a week.
Super-high-achievers sleep significantly more than the average American. On average, Americans get only 6.5 hours of sleep per night. (Even though studies show that 95 percent of the population needs between seven and eight hours of sleep a night.) Elite performers tend to get 8.6 hours of sleep a night; elite athletes need even more sleep. One study showed that when Stanford swimmers increased their sleep time to 10 hours a night, they felt happier, more energetic?and their performance in the pool improved dramatically.
High performance requires more sleep because it involves higher rates of learning and sometimes physical growth. When we are awake, adequate sleep allows us to focus our attention on our practice; when we are sleep deprived, our overworked neurons become uncoordinated, and we start having trouble accessing previously learned information.
When we sleep, our brain consolidates what we?ve learned while we were awake, making it a part of our working memory that we can access later. Sleep allows us to remember tomorrow how to do what we?ve practiced today, and it enables us to recall the information and knowledge we?ve just learned.
The amount of sleep that we get?and how disciplined we are about following our body?s natural circadian and ultradian rhythms?affects not just our health but our productivity and performance. But what does sleep have to do with grit?
Grit is the ability to maintain perseverance and passion towards our long-term goals; we cannot persevere in the face of difficulty if we are fatigued physically, mentally, or emotionally. We can?t persist over the decade or so it takes to achieve true mastery if we become sick or exhausted or burned out along the way. And we can?t improve our skills?intellectually, physically, or artistically?if our learning, memory, and reaction times are impaired due to lack of sleep and rest.
So being gritty isn?t just about pushing yourself 24/7 toward your goals, in both good and bad weather. It?s about making progress toward your goals consistently and deliberately, in a way that works with our human biology, allowing for proper refueling and consolidation of knowledge.
This is part two in a series. Part one, ?A New Theory of Elite Performance,? explains how grit trumps genetics. Part three, ?Passion + Adversity = Success,? explores how passion helps us to overcome failure.
Become a fan of Raising Happiness on Facebook.
Follow Christine Carter on Twitter
Subscribe to the Happiness Matters Podcast on iTunes.
Sign up for the Raising Happiness CLASS!
Source: http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/berkeley/MMpu/~3/D2QrWMmqDEs/the_quiet_secret_to_success
quotes about love and happiness thoughts on happiness what makes people happy being happy happy thoughts quotes
Insulting Quotes
"A woman that is like a German clock, Still a-repairing, ever out of frame, And never going aright, being a watch, But being watch'd that it may still go right!" - Shakespeare, Love's Labour Lost, 3. 1 
Source: http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AllGreatQuotes/~3/EMZDvtat6e0/shakespeare_insults_quotes.shtml
thoughts on happiness what makes people happy being happy happy thoughts quotes how to be happy
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)